You are putting your responsibility at the feet of marginalized people when you ask for nebulous “permission.” Please stop doing that. It’s not an okay thing to do. It is NOT the responsibility of marginalized people to pat you on the back and tell you that you’re a good person, you’re doing okay, and not to feel bad. Don’t put that on them. NO ONE can give you some kind of magic blanket “okay” on your writing, ESPECIALLY when they’ve never read it.
That’s perhaps what bothers me most… asking people to tell you it’s okay for you to write something when they have absolutely no context or idea of how you write. They don’t know if you’re going to research. They don’t know if you’re going to write stereotypes. The real answer to this question is always going to be I don’t know, it depends on how it’s done.
Definitely read the entire article!
What privileged people need to realise is that there isn’t an easy answer to these questions. There’s no yes or no, there’s a lot of thought, self-reflection, listening, learning, difficult decisions, difficult work. Looking for an easy answer is looking for an easy way out, and that’s not happening. Face up to the difficulties. Everyone who’s marginalised already has to.